tspencer227 | The Break-Up

So roughly 23 hours ago, I went over to Amy's place to get the rest of my stuff from her and to talk one last time about why we were breaking up.

But first, a little bit of back- story.

Friday night, I hung out with Melinda, Amy's former roommate and very close friend since high school, and a very good friend of mine ever since we started dating. As we were talking, the conversation invariably turned to Amy and I, and our relationship. Aside from the comments that were made by her that I've already talked about, I also had a few other things confirmed that I had long suspected but tried to overlook for the last couple of months...

bananacranapple, I know I've talked with you about this before too.
I learned that:

-Every morning before leaving for work, she gets her day going with a couple of shots of vodka
-She's smoking roughly an ounce of weed every week
-Her mom the Psychiatrist (the one who got drunk and talked shit about the military in front of me and my roommate) has prescribed her anti- depressants for the last several years.

Good stuff to know, huh?

So getting back to where I was going with this, when we went to get my stuff we talked for a long while outside of her apartment- away from her mom. She told me that she thinks it's incredibly fucked up that I've dismissed our relationship so quickly, that what we had wasn't love- it was lust or infatuation, that I'm not being fair to her, and that I've basically wasted the last 9 months of her life.

At which point, I reminded her that she broke up with me.

But, she was on a roll, so I let her finish her train of thought. She also told me that she thinks I have serious issues with commitment and telling the truth, and that the entire break-up shows a huge lack of character on my part. And, given my family history, she couldn't believe she fell for me, and that she should have seen this coming a long time ago, after what happened with my parents when I was a kid.

Finally, she asked me why I didn't think this was working. Still trying to be nice and not exacerbate the situation (especially since my DVD player and DVD's were still upstairs), I told her that deep down, I knew I was looking for a future wife and mother of my kids in a relationship- and I really couldn't see myself starting a family with her. She asked me why, and I said that I thought she was going in a different direction than I was. At which point, she got extremely mad, and told me that I really had no idea how she was going to be as a wife and mother, and that it was a fucked up thing to say...and I bit my tongue and resisted the urge to point out her own issues, and point out what a wonderful example her mom was providing (since I know for a fact that most girls end up turning into their mothers in the long- term). She told me that she thought I should talk to my father and try to get some of my issues resolved, and wished me good luck- and told me I was going to need it.

I grabbed the rest of my stuff and left after I told her to take care of herself. Of course, I was pissed off about her attacks on me, but I still know that I'm in the right, and I figure breaking things off now is the best thing for both of us.

Got home, sat out on the deck with Billy drinking beer and talking, and within 3 hours of me leaving she called me (I didn't answer, of course), leaving a voicemail and asking if I had a couple of her movies (which I do...).

Then, after I got out of the shower this afternoon, I saw she'd sent me a text saying she wanted to talk, and asking me to call her "if/ when you're in the mood".

So, when do yall think I should call her back? Tomorrow? Next week? I really don't want to talk to her right now- she did manage to hurt me with a couple of her last attacks, and I know I really wouldn't be very nice to her on the phone if I talked to her.